What values do I want to pass on to my children? - Children and Books PodCast

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00:00:05: And welcome to the children and books podcast today within the 20th episode with Kevin Smith and.

00:00:13: Kevin is a future lawyer from Berlin and today we're talking about values and parenting

00:00:23: and mostly about discipline and reliability

00:00:31: hello hello I'm very happy Kevin that we are talking today that you have time for us because you have got a very full timetable we know from the Newlands my hometown.

00:00:45: Love from Valentine,

00:00:49: what is good let's send love and discipline to the road let's start with the first question Devon.

00:01:03: Tell me you managing

00:01:06: multiple things to write now you're thirsty studying law in Germany and you're having your own company and also having friends and everything so Judas in like 24-hours and what values are,

00:01:23: important for managing all of these things.

00:01:28: Yes first I want to say thank you to God.

00:01:34: Are you responding to your question.

00:01:43: To be reliable that's very important to if you say a you have to do a.

00:01:53: I think that's a very good currency and haven't seen.

00:02:02: Because if you know.

00:02:07: You are the top 10% in the year 2020.

00:02:16: Yes.

00:02:19: I hear sometimes from other people from other countries when I have contact this sounds like a very drum and sing reliable and.

00:02:30: Like a Bird thing I think a lot of people which value.

00:02:37: I would be like but I don't know I'm I don't have it in me you can learn.

00:02:44: Yeah yeah of course I hope you can learn it I wondered my,

00:02:50: a future children will be like me.

00:02:55: Yeah yeah how did you become disciplined on did it came mostly from your title or something you had to learn by yourself.

00:03:11: I would say both the mix of yeah and.

00:03:19: Yeah the one from my phone.

00:03:28: Because my mum was discipline.

00:03:36: Example for me.

00:03:38: And I think if you want to achieve something you have to work hard and my case I have to shut up.

00:03:51: Important to have a good Focus.

00:03:56: And I when I when I see my my life I would say to have a Focus.

00:04:06: Is the important you can achieve more.

00:04:12: Then you say maybe say no to something to friend today I have no time.

00:04:21: Focus you said the most important thing you have to do today.

00:04:29: And so you can achieve more.

00:04:34: 1-hour this next hour.

00:04:39: Next and someone future are becoming father and mother or parents and what would you advice how can they children maybe

00:04:54: kids or learn those values and then do these values more.

00:05:03: You are said you are good.

00:05:09: What will model you are good role and future parent.

00:05:16: Discipline and the view of straight.

00:05:22: It's the best advice or the best.

00:05:32: Your children spend the most time with you as a future Dad.

00:05:41: What do you do.

00:05:53: If you do B12.

00:06:01: There's a German quote for this it's in Germany is vendue,

00:06:10: what's up really sort of English it would be if you're if you're talking about water you should drink wine something like this singers

00:06:23: most children learn from a seen it seen what their parents do and holds like.

00:06:33: The Apple doesn't fall far from the tree what was it like for you and in my childhood what did you on.

00:06:47: Try to give me a certain value or try to parent or learn something from you and your way of dealing with it.

00:07:02: I think so it's more important what you do then what you say so I didn't say all the time don't do this or

00:07:11: if you do this send Westworld and something I was my most important value was that you can trust me and if I say aye

00:07:23: if I say I will come and I really wish this was the most important to me and I only do this sort of your child I think it is

00:07:33: enough you don't need to talk so much or when I sometimes hear from other families how how how negatives children or two other men are the only talk about problems,

00:07:48: I think it's not so good I think it's better to or I did it I focused on the good things and what and what.

00:07:58: What does going because you have so many possibilities to solve the problem or to find your way with something,

00:08:07: so let the other one and if it's a child to pay let the other one do so if it's not if it's not

00:08:15: dangerous what he or she is doing so let her try to find her way or him

00:08:22: think this is important to me like who is sorry to be like a lion or like a big molten which you can trust

00:08:34: lean on maybe,

00:08:36: I would and I totally agree with you lavina and that was good thank you I would one more one more sentence,

00:08:49: I would I would say to my children if you do your job you can rely on me.

00:08:57: I am there I am every time there I'm you there.

00:09:04: I expect one or two.

00:09:11: Yeah not too high but you can rely on me I'm there twice.

00:09:18: Young you cannot say I'm there for you.

00:09:24: It's really nice to be you're trying to do a lot but you can lie on your patience and higher.

00:09:39: High-reliability that say it like this.

00:09:45: British understatement alright I think it would be interesting to talk and 10 years again

00:09:52: how it was if you were if you can do it I would say it would be interesting to talk in German because German.

00:10:06: A version for the agenda,

00:10:09: yeah and then listen to Our German podcast Kevin how.old.do you bring all your

00:10:23: things you need to do doing a date you haven't this or how we work on practically was it.

00:10:34: Canada and business Canada.

00:10:39: And I have also to-do list I think like that everyday yes but.

00:10:48: At this days when I have to study a lot I have not enough time to do.

00:10:57: Some things they aren't that important on Monday.

00:11:07: 6 not today I am not tomorrow.

00:11:13: I have decided I have to do all those little things today not tomorrow yeah yeah I have to focus on the most important things

00:11:27: I have good time to do this,

00:11:32: Friday is 115 day.

00:11:38: Like me to have now I see there are a lot of little steps which used to be done,

00:11:45: write them down because sometimes when I may be tired come from university or tired from work

00:11:54: don't know what to do now and then I need to look on my list into say now this is now the right thing to do and then it's done.

00:12:04: It's like a little I would say if you put those small things to make me to Friday you would see today I have more time.

00:12:18: Yeah I have more time.

00:12:23: What part of the answer in another point which is very important and interesting is

00:12:31: in our Drummond podcast you can learn English and listen to a podcast only short how does how do you work

00:12:43: very stressful very big things to do are you working this rewards.

00:12:50: Of course that's a good power.

00:13:04: FX if you have to work 4 hours I have to focus on this book.

00:13:15: Show me lower I can

00:13:28: have a good wine for example.

00:13:32: Or I can find I can have a good talk with you for example that was a good motivation for me today.

00:13:46: Thank you.

00:13:48: So I can see for everybody who was listening to and said now to our post house I can see this is a German thing,

00:13:57: and then you go on with your project and everything,

00:14:08: every time I saw I saw Kevin the last I think 6 or 7 months.

00:14:14: He always had this big book with them is schoenefeld the patients to reading it every single day and I think it's just.

00:14:27: And maybe that's good that's good ending for this today.

00:14:34: If you listening to an hour you definitely should learn German and maybe,

00:14:47: thank you thank you Branco thank you Kevin that we could talk about this German things and thank you to all our wish you a nice week

00:15:01: enjoy it and I'll be there.

00:15:38: Hello.

00:15:55: Your love from bargain my hometown I sent you really love from.

00:16:06: Yes love and discipline that sounds good.

00:16:42: Yes first I want to say thank you to both of you and yeah to your question.

00:16:56: To be reliable is very important to if you say a you have to do a.

00:17:07: I think that's a very good currency and where currency.

00:17:15: Because if you liable you are top 10% in the year 2020.

00:17:41: Like a bed thing.

00:17:57: Yeah yeah of course I hope you can learn it I wondered my future children will be disciplined like me.

00:18:25: I would say both the mix of and.

00:18:33: Yeah the one help from my from my child.

00:18:42: Because my mum was very disciplined and was a good example.

00:18:52: And on the other hand I think if you want to achieve something you have to work hard and my case I have to learn hard.

00:19:07: Want to have a good Focus and I when I when I see my my life I would say to her.

00:19:20: Is the important you can achieve more if you say maybe say no to something.

00:19:30: To friend today I have time to focus you you serve at the most important thing you have to do today.

00:19:42: And so are you can achieve more.

00:19:47: 1-hour this next hour next answer.

00:20:16: I would say you are said you are a good role model.

00:20:24: You are a good role model and future parent if you are disciplined and the Vue.

00:20:36: The best advice or the best because your children.

00:20:46: Your children spend the most time with you.

00:20:52: As a future debt and yeah it's very important what do you do.

00:21:03: You cannot expect a review.

00:21:10: So it's very important to.

00:22:21: I agree.

00:23:50: I would I totally agree with you fine and that was a good point thank you I would have one more one more sentence,

00:24:02: I would I would say to my children if you do your job you can rely on me.

00:24:11: Yeah I I am there I am every time there I'm you there.

00:24:18: I expect one or two points.

00:24:25: Not not too high but you can rely on me I'm there Twilight you cannot say I'm there for you.

00:24:40: I don't know.

00:24:56: British understatement.

00:25:09: And I would say it would be interesting to talk in German because it's not good enough sorry to the audience there is the best German version for a German.

00:25:23: Because yes.

00:25:42: Yeah I have Canada business Canada and yeah and I have also I think.

00:25:59: Yes but.

00:26:02: At this days when I have to study a lot I have not enough time to do.

00:26:10: Some things they aren't that important so I put them on Monday.

00:26:20: Little 6 not today not tomorrow little bit.

00:26:26: I have to I have to site on Friday I have to do all those little things not today not tomorrow today tomorrow I have to focus have to focus on the most important thing,

00:26:40: but Friday I have good time to do this.

00:26:48: It was an exemplary example you understand.

00:26:58: Yes.

00:27:17: It's like a little I would say yeah and if you put those small things to make me to Friday you would see today I have more time.

00:27:32: I have more time and that's one part of the UN.

00:28:03: Remote like a balloon and yes of course lubina that's that's true that's a good power.

00:28:17: That's perfect if you have to work 4 hours I have to focus on this book.

00:28:29: German German or Portuguese.

00:28:35: It's very hard to focus but after 4 hours I can have a good wine for example.

00:28:46: Or I can find I can have a good talk with you for example that was a good motivation for me today.

00:28:56: Very very good thank you.

00:29:18: Yes.

00:29:39: That's a good send.

00:29:55: It's not too hard I think.

00:30:21: Choose.